Wednesday, October 7, 2009




"You must always remember that you are weak but that God is strong. God knows all about your weakness. He hears every cry for mercy, every sign of weakness, every plea for help, every sorrow over failure, every weakness felt and expressed. We only fail when we trust too much to our own strength. Do not feel bad about your weakness. When you are weak, that is when God is strong to help you."
From "Twenty-Four Hours a Day", October 7


"The best cure for worry, depression, melancholy, brooding, is to go deliberately forth and try to lift with one's sympathy the gloom of somebody else." - Arnold Bennett


"...alcoholism not only exists inside the body of the alcoholic, but is a disease of relationships as well."
From "Paths to Recovery", p. 8

"Since defective relations with other human beings have nearly always been the immediate cause of our woes, including our alcoholism, no field of investigation could yield more satisfying and valuable rewards than this one."
From "Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions", p. 80


A + B = C


A = you

B = the other person
C = the relationship

Fact: you can not change the other person (B)
Fact: the relationship (C) is made up of two people, A & B
Fact: since you can't change the other person (B), you can't change the relationship (C) by changing B
Fact: you can change yourself with God's help

Fact: If you want a relationship to change, then you must change yourself
Fact: If you change, then you become D

Fact: If you change, then the relationship becomes E

D + B = E

Concerning relationships
from "Hope For Today", p. 60, February 29
"I realized that I could transform "a" (myself) and get a different "c" (relationship), even if (b) (the alcoholic) never changed."

Alcoholics Anonymous and Al-Anon have allowed me to change. All my relationships have changed for the better as a result. How grateful I am.

Prayer Girl


wolfie185 said...

Thanks for sharing that PG!

Shadow said...

how i love your relationship maths...

Dulce said...

Wow... I'll definitely go for this advicing formula!
Thank you PG! :)

Madison said...

I walk in that weakness and can testify that God comes through. So much wisdom in this post. Thanks.

Banana Girl said...

Wow, I am so bad at formulae. Abstract concepts run my head. So I love this and then in trying to deduce it am reminded of the problem I couldn't muster in third grade about two trains leaving Philadelphia at the same time, one traveling at 40 mph and the other at 60 mph. My thought? How can they do that on the same track? The mind of a child remains....Love your post and know it to be true in all regards. J.

Steve E. said...

PG, when I "came to" in AA, I was told, I'd have to relearn my alphabet, my A,B,C's.

Now you are teaching me and others the AA "new math"?

Good post, thanks

Jess Mistress of Mischief said...

Thank you!

Susan at Stony River said...

Good one! That's an excellent fact to remember, no matter what the relationship is.

Gin said...

And that's the A,B.C's of it!!!!

Syd said...

I like your math. And I understand it.

Little M said...

Cool. Thanks for the reminder :)

Tall Kay said...

I just LOVE the math equations! I get it and it makes so much sense! Thanks for all the love you put into your posts and your comments Anna. I appreciate it so much. Hugs to you from CT!

Kay said...

I think i got an F on my realtionship...sigh

always love your words of wisdom

Wanda's Wings said...

Love this post! Just your ABC's

♥ Boomer ♥ said...

So good! Really. So true. And as far as your comment on my 55 tonight .. I think we all remember that first time. Have a great weekend.

Anonymous said...

Truly needed every word today. Thank you. Trusting G-d with my weaknesses is a concept I (a control freak) am just learning. The reminder came at a perfect time.

Hugs PG,

Chef Kar